“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
Recently I watched an archived episode of The Dr. Phil Show (don’t judge) about a morbidly obese woman who had gained over 100 pounds throughout her two-year marriage. Her spouse was completely disgusted, embarrassed and turned-off by her weight gain that he claimed led him to begin an extramarital affair. He, and a number of the shows guest found his infidelity acceptable under the circumstances of her rapid weight gain and past unwillingness to control her weight.
The possibility of actually retiring at the age of 55 might actually be feasible if I could have pocketed $1 for each time I’ve heard a woman say, “all men cheat,” or heard a man explain his infidelity with the simple reminder, “I’m a man.” Oh ok. Well why didn’t you say so? I’ll just pack my things and go now. Take care. WTH?
Upstanding men who do not make a habit of cheating – yes, they do exist. At least one I know of for sure. Right, honey? I said RIGHT? – should be offended by the “I’m a man” statement used to rationalize blatant disrespect. I think most of us can agree that, “I’m a man” is a piss-poor excuse, not a justification for cheating. But are there some excusable reasons for infidelity? Apparently so.
Tune into any of the 1,001 court shows, talks shows, reality talk shows and you’ll witness a number of men and women cheating on their significant other citing that their infidelity is the reaction to first being cheated on. According to this rule of thought, cheating is not only acceptable, but also warranted.
There is a number of excuses that cheaters have been known to give: “I’m not built for a long distance relationship”; “I can’t stand your mom”; “you’re boring in bed”; “you knew that I was unhappy”; “your middle toe is longer than your big toe.” Blah, blah, blah. The common denominator is that all of these excuses blame the “victim” or the person being cheated on leaving behind the notion that the act of cheating is not the decision of the cheater, but controlled by the person being cheated on.
I’m a firm believer that despite how many home cooked meals one makes, kegel exercises performed throughout the day, or how beautiful one is, it doesn’t guarantee that infidelity will be prevented. Infidelity is a choice that one makes. It doesn’t “just happen.” There is no justifying it, but maybe you disagree…
“I’m just a soul whose intentions are good
Oh Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood
Don’t let me be misunderstood”
Nina Simone, Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood
“Simply put, whatever we give our emotions, energy, time, effort and devotion to that is what we worship. Worship is what we spend our time prioritizing. It’s the thing we enjoy the most. What we wish we could do longer but don’t always have the time. Worship is about what we adore more than anything else….” – Pastor Swann
I encourage you all to be careful where, and in what we place our energy. Where your energy is, so is your heart. This quote can be the great catalyst for change…on the precipice of greatness.
1. “It’s not you, it’s me.” – Nope. It really is you I’m just trying to be nice.
2. “The doctor will be with you in a minute.” – Get outta here! In all of my 29 years I have yet to see the doctor in “a minute,” or even a few minutes. Saying, “The doctor will be with you in 13 minutes even though there is no wall clock in this cramped room to help you gauge how long you’ve actually been waiting,” is a lot more accurate.
3. “It’s not what you think.” – It’s exactly what you think and it’s what you saw too.
4. “All the good ones are taken.” – This lie must have originated from a woman in an attempt to ward off the competition.
5. “I don’t need anyone.” – We ALL need someone. We weren’t meant to live life alone. We need one another.
6. “My child would never do that.” – Yeah he would. And he did.
7. “Just 3 easy payments of $19.99.” – Lol. Don’t forget the shipping and handling. It may also be helpful to have a magnifying glass on hand to read the super tiny print rapidly scrolling at the bottom of the television screen.
8. “Satisfaction guaranteed.” – Satisfaction is subjective; thereby, never guaranteed.
9. “We’re just friends.” (Smile. Giggle.) “No, really.” – The smile followed by a giggle is a bit of a giveaway.
10. “I’m only 5 minutes away.” – If anyone feeds you this lie take off your shoes and coat, fix that sandwich you’ve been craving and finishing watching that House of Anywhere, USA episode, because the person feeding you this lie hasn’t even pulled out of the drive way.
11. “I’m 100% natural.” – They don’t move and you wore a size 32A just last week. But they look great!
12. “Why am I being pulled over? I was doing the speed limit. Maybe 3 miles, no more than 5 miles over the speed limit.” – Take it from an avid collector of speed tickets from all across the country: this lie NEVER works.
13. “I’m allergic to latex.” – As a woman I am obligated to add this one. (I would’ve added a different, wildly popular lie closely related to this one, but since my mother and mother-in-law sometimes pay my blog a visit I figured I’d keep it classy while educating the masses. Lol.)
14. “I’ll pay you back when I’ll get my tax return.” – CLASSIC!
15. “I never lie.” – This must be your first.
What did I miss? Share a classic lie or give us a sneak peek to the next great lie destined to be coined a future classic.
The Democratic and Republican campaign trail has been aflame with insults, overwhelming media messages, accusations, some truths, and many untruths. I have come to view the 2012 Presidential Election as down right disgusting and disrespectful truly bringing to the surface some very ignorant people. To be honest I have had enough of the 2012 election and although tomorrow may for some be thought of as the beginning of the end, I am convinced that it will likely be the beginning of more madness.
Throughout the 2012 campaign celebrities have been more vocal than in the past about flaunting their support for the presidential candidate of their choice. There has been much drama surrounding the choice that some, particularly celebrities, have made regarding who they will cast a ballot for on tomorrow, November 6th.
This is my third (geez I’m getting old) presidential election where I will exercise my right to vote and with each election I’ve noticed the growing trend of people, and even social media and the blogosphere, inextricably linking one’s political ideology to one’s belief on racism and loyalty. The Republican party is NOT synonymous with racists. The Democratic party is not synonymous with “victims.” As voting is meant to be a right, so is freedom of choice. We as Americans have the right to decide who most closely embody our ideals. This is our right. Personally, I consider it our duty. This is why I applaud those who, despite having different views and ideals than I, are engaged in the electoral process and have or will exercise their right which is more than I can say for those who have completely checked out, or more accurately, have not checked in…to even register!
I cannot understand how an adult – a grown person who is actually a tax paying citizen in the U.S. of A– cannot even be registered and nonchalantly admit (in what I heard to be a Homer Simpson voice), “I’m not voting. I’m not even registered. I have never voted.” What? Huh? Workplace politics helped to refrain my true response. Though, to be honest, I’m not sure that my true response would have been any different than, WTH? which is exactly the eye crossing, head scratching question that fogged my mind the moment the shocker rolled off my colleagues’ tongue. My colleague is not alone in her refusal to vote. There are an alarming number of people who are refusing to vote this election. Some taut that neither presidential candidate is worthy of his/her vote. Ooookkkk. Well what about those running for state and local office? Those candidates aren’t worthy of a vote either? The candidate, who will certainly not be chosen by those who refuse to participate, will greatly impact the lives of those who do and do not exercise their right.
To not exercise this right which still is not afforded to all Americans, is so terribly selfish and in some ways immature. Our participation in the voting process is much bigger than us. It’s much bigger than tomorrow. Its impact will be felt for generations.
Vote. It is a sacred right. It is a responsibility. It’s bigger than you. It’s bigger than one day. And you will feel it, for better or worse.
“I’m not who you think I am. If you love me, you love me for the wrong reasons.”
– Sister Souljah, Midnight
Hmmph? I wonder, which is more useful in life: to be intelligent and in doubt of ones abilities, too scared to reach a level of success that one wishes for; or, to be blissfully ignorant without the sense to be scared of ones inabilities? Thank StuckInAlabyrinth for sharing this quote. Be-Quoted!